We all have lists. The to do lists. The unending, rolling collection of things we have to do or need to do or want to do. The one that seems to get longer, no matter how many things we check off.
Embracing a different kind of magic
It’s okay to love all versions of yourself, even if you can see her flaws and her brokenness. Even if you can see exactly where she got it wrong.
When your heart is broken
Things are harder than they should be because people are messy and this is all complicated. We crash into each other and there is conflict or synergy and it’s impossible to know which you’ll find until you’ve already collided.
It’s okay to be messy.
Pretending that you aren’t impacted by the world around you isn’t strength–it’s a lie. You are not alone, because this is all idiotically hard.
Out of Focus
When I take a hard look at my own expectations, I realize that a lot of them are based on comparison. Specifically, comparison to people who are not me. When other people say things about their lack of productivity, my reaction would be “You are writing. You don’t have to follow anybody else’s timeline.” I would remind them of everything else they are doing. Why can I not accept that advice in the context of my own journey?
A snapshot into a chaotic writer’s brain
It feels good to create. It feels good to make things, and I know myself well enough not to force a schedule or a word count. I wilt in the confines of a schedule. Every now and then I take an inventory of what’s rattling around in my head.
What I learned in my first month on TikTok
Last month, I decided to try it. I started making some videos. And holy cow. It was nothing like starting a new Instagram brand, a new Facebook page, or a new Twitter account. Here are the things that surprised me a bit about authors on TikTok.
ADHD mom life is a thing
I was diagnosed in my late 20s. But it’s taken me another decade to figure out what it actually means to have ADHD. This is what ADHD looks like for me as a 37 year old mom.
Deconstruction
The core of what makes a person who they are—faith, family, purpose—have all been on the table. And it’s hard. It’s really uncomfortable to start asking questions that shake everything you understand about why you believe and act and love the way you do.